Development tips

Topic of the month | Inviting Communication

Here are the ways you can invite others in when you communicate:

Ones
Use words that suggest flexibility and receptivity rather than words that are strong opinions or indicate categorical thinking of right and wrong.

Twos
Focus on yourself as much as on the other person; share more at different levels with different people so you are more in reciprocity.

Threes
Refer less to your own actions, achievements or yourself and show genuine curiosity about the other person.

Fours
Reduce the frequency of self-referencing words such as me, my, mine and I, while continuing your innate curiosity about others and allowing them to share at their comfort level.

Fives
Include some of your feelings in almost every communication, written or verbal and ask about the feelings of others.

Sixes
Reduce the frequency of words you use that convey anxiety fear or worry, which will lessen people feeling they need to be concerned with what’s on your mind first.

Sevens
Use complete sentences when you speak; listen to the thoughts of others until they have finished before you respond.

Eights
Specifically ask for responses from others and give others ample time to answer.

Nines
Share your ideas early while also soliciting what others think and feel.

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