Ones | If you really want to understand yourself, take something really challenging to try to change, not just what you might perceive as something you can do better or something that needs improving. Here’s something hard: Try to change your

Ones | Do you feel unsettled to consider that all or most of your multitude of opinions are not really facts? What if they are really just your opinions extracted from what you think are facts? And if these ideas you

Ones | What prejudices are you willing to give up about yourself? Can you imagine yourself spontaneous and free-spirited? Can you imagine being wrong more than you are right? Can you imagine yourself being fully accepting when you make a

The ego is our self-image, not our true self. It is characterized by labels, masks, images, and judgments. The true self is the field of possibilities, creativity, intentions, and power. We can go beyond the ego through self-awareness – awareness

Ones | With a tendency to over-rely on your opinions, work plans, and exemplary behavior for authority, when you learn to relax these and also access your feelings and values more, your deeper authority will emerge. Twos | With a

Ones | Put your self-critic on hold as you listen to what someone offers you as feedback, even when it is offered inelegantly. Twos | Neither blame yourself nor blame the other person when you receive feedback that contradicts your sense of

Ones | Although Ones speak precisely, this is not the same as speaking clearly. Speak from your heart as well as your gut and mind; this will not only slow down your responses, they will become more pure and clear.

Here are highlights from my keynote at the South African Enneagram conference held in Cape Town this past October/November. Dirk Cloete of Integrative Enneagram Solutions, host and conference sponsor, had asked me to provide the keynote on Diversity and the

Ones | Listen to others with the same precision, attention and respect as you listen to your own thoughts and opinions. Twos | When you don’t like someone or feel they have harmed you, listen as full-heartedly as you listen