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Ones | To cultivate happiness through gratitude and compassion, Ones simply need to open their hearts and value them as much as their minds and their guts, and they also need to recognize that their self-criticism and search for perfection takes them in the opposite direction of gratitude, compassion and, ultimately, happiness.

Twos | To cultivate happiness through gratitude and compassion, Twos simply need to open themselves more to receiving from others and from their environments thus giving themselves so much more to feel grateful for, and they also need to be in compassion for others rather than absorbing the emotions (and especially pain) of other people.

Threes | To cultivate happiness through gratitude and compassion, Threes need to shift their mental paradigm and recognize that they won’t achieve happiness through directly pursuing it, but neither will they achieve gratitude or compassion by pursuing it or setting it as a goal. They have to be in gratitude and be in compassion, opening their hearts to themselves and to others.

Fours | To cultivate happiness through gratitude and compassion, Fours need to believe happiness is within their reach rather than something that seems to elude them, but then to focus their energy on what they have rather than what they do not and to truly experience a soft rather than intense compassion for both themselves and others.

Fives | To cultivate happiness through gratitude and compassion, Fives need to first open themselves up to all the resources – people, time, energy, and more – that are really available rather than being so self-reliant and autonomous; otherwise, they limit themselves in terms of what they can actually be in gratitude about. In addition, to be in compassion, they must first truly and deeply open their hearts rather than to lead a cerebral life.

Sixes | To cultivate happiness through gratitude and compassion, Sixes need to relax their overly-wired nervous system through whatever works best for them – for example, walks, nature, physical activities they find relaxing, breath work, and more. With this increased somatic receptivity, gratitude and compassion have a far more fertile field in which to reside.

Sevens | To cultivate happiness through gratitude and compassion, Sevens must first explore and examine what they currently perceive as happiness. True and deep happiness is not the pursuit of pleasure, it is the receptivity, the beauty and possibility that exists in their here and now, not in embellished reality. Becoming more receptive to their interior spaces and opening the heart space truly supports gratitude and compassion.

Eights | To cultivate happiness through gratitude and compassion, Eights need to surrender control, reduce their fear that when they are in gratitude, compassion and, ultimately, happiness, that this state of well-being can remain and won’t be taken from them. A more receptive heart, a strong and gentle heart, also support the above.

Nines | To cultivate happiness through gratitude and compassion, Nines need to be willing to experience themselves more deeply. When they do so, gratitude, compassion, and happiness will emerge from this in a way that is deep, gently intense and life-affirming.

Ginger Lapid-Bogda PhD, the author of five best-selling Enneagram-business books, is a speaker, consultant, trainer, and coach. She provides certification programs for professionals around the world who want to bring the Enneagram into organizations with high-impact business applications, and is past-president of the International Enneagram Association. Visit her website: TheEnneagramInBusiness.com. ginger@theenneagraminbusiness.com

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