How can people of each enneagram type learn to be quieter? Being quiet does not mean talking less, although it might. Being quiet more refers to quietude within.
Being quite means allowing your opinions to rise and fall without being attached to them or expressing them; being quiet might mean relaxing your need to be continuously active and being more open and receptive; being quiet might mean sitting still and nourishing yourself with positive affirmations.
Being quiet means pulling into yourself rather than extending your energy and your thoughts to others; being quiet might mean spending some “me” time rather than “you” time; being quiet might mean replenishing yourself by yourself through walks, music, art or whatever you love.
Being quiet means being still, being in your body – not thinking so furiously – and doing what you might normally consider to be doing nothing because it is something; being still might mean trying something new simply for the fun of it whether or not you imagine you would be good at it; being quiet might mean being quiet enough to go into your heart, access what you feel and tap into what you truly want.
Being quiet means breathing gently through your nose and into head, neck and heart, being still and open as you do so; being still might mean feeling OK, even good, with how things are just as they are without wanting anything to be different; being quiet might mean extending a peace calm energy that comes from deep within you at the very moment you feel like retracting or closing off.
Being quiet means filling your entire body with a robust and even vitality rather than emptying yourself and feeling devoid of energy; being quiet might mean not thinking very much about anything and just enjoying the peacefulness of mind, heart and body; being quiet might mean spending time with someone you care about and enjoying the quietness together while still sensing your engagement with the other person.
Being quiet means giving your active mind a rest by breathing gently and rhythmically; being quiet might mean taking wonderful walks and simply and only enjoying nature while you are walking; being quiet might mean simply doing something for the pure fun of it.
Being quiet means slowing down how quickly you move, walk, and talk; being quiet might mean going inside and having a look around, doing so gently and with curiosity; being quiet might mean grounding yourself by feeling your feet legs, and ankles and feeling the grounding move from the ground to your feet and, then, upward.
Being quiet means being in your heart, your quiet, deepest and sweetest heart; being quiet might mean allowing yourself to simply be while allowing others be the doers; being quiet might mean filling yourself energetically with a lovely, calm, and peaceful energetic.
Being quiet means filling yourself from head to toe with a sift and vibrant energy; being quiet might mean gently wiggling every part of yourself in a playful and pleasurable way; being quiet might mean breathing gently into your heart area and staying there, quietly without movement.
Ginger Lapid-Bogda PhD, the author of six best-selling Enneagram-business books, is a speaker, consultant, trainer, and coach. She provides certification programs for professionals around the world who want to bring the Enneagram into organizations with high-impact business applications, and is past-president of the International Enneagram Association. Visit her website: TheEnneagramInBusiness.com. firstname.lastname@example.org