‘I got my OWN back.” ~ Maya Angelou

Giving away our power to another, especially but not only, to those who pretend to be gurus, does not support our wholeness. In personal relationships and in our interactions with people we perceive as highly developed, giving our power away – and particularly when the other person wants to take our power – does not bode well for a healthy relationship. Here are 9 ways people of each Enneagram type can give away their power.

Ones

Overvaluing someone you think is excellent, having that supersede being able to perceive a person’s character flaws

Twos

Needing to become important to important people, having that supersede being able to perceive a person’s character flaws

Threes

Admiring and internalizing through identification someone who is important, having that supersede being able to perceive a person’s character flaws

Fours

Wanting connection so strongly with someone you resonate with, having that supersede being able to perceive a person’s character flaws

Fives

Having such important mind-share with someone, having that supersede being able to perceive a person’s character flaws

Sixes

Admiring and needing to make an authority figure so good or exemplary, having that supersede being able to perceive a person’s character flaws

Sevens

Filling your inner void with someone who excites you, having that supersede being able to perceive a person’s character flaws

Eights

Perceiving someone as so powerful that they can heal your inner wounds, having that supersede being able to perceive a person’s character flaws

Nines

Merging and blending with someone who wants you to do that, having that supersede being able to perceive a person’s character flaws

Ginger Lapid-Bogda PhD, the author of seven Enneagram-business books, is a speaker, consultant, trainer, and coach. She provides certification programs and training tools for business professionals around the world who want to bring the Enneagram into organizations with high-impact business applications, and is past-president of the International Enneagram Association. Visit: TheEnneagramInBusiness.com | ginger@theenneagraminbusiness.com