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Topic of the month | deepest longing

“Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose.” ~ Yoda

That which we most deeply long for, we are most often afraid to give up what we effort to do to try to get. Instead of efforting, it is far better to let go and allow what we really want to emerge. Here are the deepest longings for individuals of each Enneagram type:


Deepest longing | To experience a tranquil life, accepting the world as it is


Deepest longing | To feel a deep and firm sense of self-worth that is not dependent on how others respond


Deepest longing | To know who they really are and to be valued by both themselves and others for who they are, not just what they accomplish


Deepest longing | To live a deep, purposeful, and emotionally balanced life


Deepest longing | To experience and fully understand life at all levels – mental, emotional and physical


Deepest longing | To be able to fully trust themselves, others, and their environment


Deepest longing | To feel complete, whole, and solid


Deepest longing | To regain their lost purity and goodness while still feeling strong and vital


Deepest longing | To know that they matter enough to both speak their truth and take values-based action


Ginger Lapid-Bogda PhD, the author of seven best-selling Enneagram-business books, is a speaker, consultant, trainer, and coach. She provides certification programs for professionals around the world who want to bring the Enneagram into organizations with high-impact business applications, and is past-president of the International Enneagram Association. Visit her website: |